tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2477896295539142337.post8709144288309416094..comments2022-11-16T06:22:34.906-06:00Comments on Letters From Logan: Throwback Thursdays: True Love AwaitsLogan Vaughanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130644147690148704noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2477896295539142337.post-74780976218860732802015-05-06T21:17:32.431-05:002015-05-06T21:17:32.431-05:00Logan, it's been a long time since I've be...Logan, it's been a long time since I've been here and looks like a long time since you posted...you should consider starting again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15782906319875202066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2477896295539142337.post-81723178877086307172012-10-19T13:32:23.280-05:002012-10-19T13:32:23.280-05:00Hey, thanks for posting... and sorry for not being...Hey, thanks for posting... and sorry for not being too consistent a reader. But it's always good when I find the time =) Just today I was talking to Abby (a different one =P kinda weird how they both have the same name...) and we decided not to pursue our relationship on a deeper level... not telling you to do anything, just saying what happening. But thanks for the thoughts (Logan and Rebecca), I'll be keeping them in mind for the future. I've come to dislike this lag of time and how I seem to be getting ahead of myself allot. Readily anticipating the Great Wedding and all the joys to follow =)Tunafishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00622783406675315243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2477896295539142337.post-77522200012780067322012-10-18T17:23:21.976-05:002012-10-18T17:23:21.976-05:00I enjoy reading your blog. Several of your posts,...I enjoy reading your blog. Several of your posts, especially around this time last year, I believe God has used in my life to help affirm my convictions. You have wisdom.<br /><br />You say you used to be legalistic. I can understand how you feel that way now. Experience does change things. But you can go too far in the other direction. I was like that in my past relationship. I rationalized going further than we had planned to (Even though we never kissed. Yeah, it's possible, and I'm glad now that we didn't). I would tell myself, "Well, it's okay for us to be somewhat physical because it's both our love languages" and other things that made me feel better about it. The reality was that it made me feel way more emotionally close to him and feel like we were headed towards marraige, when we were very far off. Essentially, it was a lie (even though he did not mean to) because it made me think he was closer to being ready than he astually was. That caused deep hurt when I realized that we weren't anywhere close to where I thought we were.<br /><br />You could both be absolutely fine with kissing, but by deepening your physical expression, even without realizing it, you could be leading her on. While you are maturing spiritually, emotionally, and in other ways more than most guys I know, you have to admit, you still have a ways to go. You have said in the past that you want to wait until you graduate to get married (you may have changed that along with the legalistic thing, I don't know). I don't know what all you are going to be doing with college, but let's just say that's 3 1/2 years from now. Then you're going to have to get a job. As much as you might feel ready right now, you're not (I'm not either, if that makes you feel better). I bet you can think of several flaws and character issues that God needs to iron out of you before you can be a good husband to Abby. As much fun as being married young may be, there are so many real life issues that come along with it. I'm sure you can think of several right off the top of your head.<br /><br />So the point I'm trying to make here is: Make sure you're both on the same page. If you feel like kissing is appropriate and God-glorifying right now (I hope it is important to you that every facet of your relationship glorifies God. The things that don't, turn into sin fast.)then make sure you both realize that it will probably be awhile before you are ready to marry, and that you might need to limit your physical involvement so you don't do too much, too fast (that's another easy way to get into sin: to reach your boundaries quickly and get bored, then start pushing the limits). It's like this (CFA joke coming up here!) if you open a package of Chick-fil-a Sauce to go with your waffle fries, you don't use most of it up on the first fry. You portion it out so you will still have enough when you reach the last fry (a.k.a right before you get married.).<br /><br />Sorry for this HUGE comment, and thank you for reading it. I hope it's understandable and not un-called for.<br /><br />I'll be praying for you and Abby (for real, I'm not just saying that to sound "Christian").<br /><br />Rebecca Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15391584444495685936noreply@blogger.com