Too many times I hear the topic of sex watered down or completely ignored by other Christians. I think that's wrong. I can't stress how important it is that the importance of purity is presented to children and teenagers. It is a real struggle to be pure, and if the church won't help us, then we're only relying on the world for advice and accountability. That won't help us in any form or fashion. The world will just hand us condoms and birth control pills. But Jesus offers more than that. You see, you can't put a condom on your heart. And when you have sex, you're not having sex with a body. You're having sex with a soul.
The Bible says that when a man and a woman get married, they become one flesh. So when you have sex before marriage or outside of marriage, you're becoming one flesh with someone who isn't your spouse. And that's adultery. Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 6:16, "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, 'The two will become one flesh.'" So if you unite yourself sexually with someone who isn't your spouse, you're becoming one with her body in the flesh. But God didn't create sex to be something shared between anyone and everyone. God designed sex as 1) a way to procreate, and 2) provide a way for a husband and wife to show their love for one another. Any sexual activity outside of marriage is disregarding God's design for sex, and it is outside of His will. In short, it's sin.
There are a few different types of sexual sin. There's adultery and prostitution, which are often referred to in Proverbs. And there's pre-marital sex. Adultery is when you are married and have sex with someone besides your spouse or having sex with someone else's spouse. And there's prostitution, which is paying someone for sex. And there's pre-marital sex. This is quite possibly the most common of the three in America today. This basically means losing your virginity before you get married. It's probably the easiest of the three mistakes to make because you think it won't come back to bite you. A lot of teenagers and young adults are buying into the lie of "friends with benefits" or "no strings attached." But with sin, there is always a price to pay. There are things that can and will happen. STDS, AIDS, getting caught, pregnancy, and the unending shame.
My friends, do not be deceived: There is always a price.
Proverbs 6:27-29, 32-35 says, "Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished... But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. For jealousy arouses a husband’s fury, and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge. He will not accept any compensation; he will refuse a bribe, however great it is."
Don't buy into the lies of "no strings attached" and "friends with benefits." There's always a price to pay. Are you willing to pay the price? Are diseases, embarrassment, pregnancy and parenthood, and great shame worth having sex? For those of us who are single, wait until marriage! Just remember the story of my friend who didn't wait. Do you want that to be you? It could be if you don't wait. I'm sure you're thinking, "That'll never happen to me." And for those who are married, be satisfied with your spouse! Seriously, adultery is so dumb. You have a spouse with whom you are legally free to have as much sex with as you want. Why would you want to chase any other skirt? Strive for purity. Keep sex in marriage. And always remember: there is a price.