If you want to know whether or not something is appropriate or inappropriate, okay or not okay, or good or bad, you will need wisdom to discern between right and wrong. Being wise means that you will be able to understand and discern what you are supposed to do, and also what you're not supposed to do. To be confident and secure in your convictions, boundaries, and beliefs, you will need wisdom to understand what is right and good for you. Wisdom is what helps you make the right decision.
Proverbs 3:3-5, 9-11 says that "...if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God...
"Then you will understand what is right and just and fair—every good path. For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you."
I put emphasis on verse nine because that is what we are looking for. When we say we want to know what is right or wrong, or appropriate or inappropriate between the sexes, we are really asking what is right and just and fair. We are asking what rules and what convictions are good and beneficial. And the only way to know that is to have wisdom and discernment. Wisdom has to be the source behind your decisions on what your convictions and beliefs are, otherwise what you decide will be unwise and faulty. Remember that Proverbs 3:5 says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding."
So before we begin to look at what the five qualities of servant romance are, I encourage you to pray for knowledge. I encourage you to read the first four chapters of Proverbs, and to search the entire Bible for words of wisdom. I invite you to begin seeking wisdom with me. It's a journey that I started several months ago and I haven't had a boring moment yet.
I don't want any of my beliefs, values, or convictions to be based on opinions or theories or rules; I want them to be based on wisdom and on the truth. I don't want to conform to or agree with what the world says or what man says- unless it agrees with what God says. What God says trumps all. Romans 12:2 says, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." If you want to know what God's will is on anything, then don't conform to the wisdom of this world.
Wisdom is the key to understanding everything. Proverbs 3:21-24 says, "My son, preserve sound judgment and discernment, do not let them out of your sight; they will be life for you, an ornament to grace your neck. Then you will go on your way in safety, and your foot will not stumble..."